Submissive vs poser which one are you?

There used to be a time when honest "im submissive" was enough to take your word for it. Not anymore. Don't get me wrong; I am not saying you aren't a submissive, but I am saying you have to beat heavy statistics to prove it. Is that really a bad thing tho? Should proving your submission bother a real submissive? Or should it excite you to have a chance to show your purpose to the woman who will soon command your entire life? The only one angry about "not taking his word" is a poser. He doesn't know how to prove he is submissive because he isn't one.

Today, we will think of submissives as if they were pots.

There are two kinds of pots. One you keep for life because it handles everything without issue; you love that pot and would never give it up. The second one you bought because it looked good, but every time you use it, it makes your life harder. You just wanted scrambled eggs, and now you have to scrub for two hours because it’s sticky.

A truly submissive soul knows he is a tool. A pot doesn't choose the ingredients, the temperature, or when it gets put on the fire.  Its only purpose is to contain whatever is poured into it and endure the heat of the stove without cracking.

You are a pot and Domme is a cheff!

1. The Purpose

A poser is a decorative pot. He wants to sit on a high shelf where everyone can see his "devotion" and admire his finish. He wants to be "special." The moment you put him on the burner, he cracks, because he was never built to handle the heat he was built to be looked at. He wants the label of "pot" without actually holding any weight.

A dedicated sub is cast iron. He is heavy, plain, and built for utility. He doesn't care if he’s seen; he cares if he’s useful. You can burn him, scrub him raw, and throw him back in the cupboard, and he’ll still be ready to hold whatever you pour in next. He doesn't have an ego about what he contains; he just holds it.

2. The Contents

The poser tries to tell the chef what to cook. He begs for "punishment" or "discipline," which is just him trying to choose his own ingredients. He’s a pot that complains when it’s used for boiling water instead of something "exciting."

The dedicated sub stays empty until I decide what goes in. If I want to use him for the most mundane, boring tasks the scraps of my day he holds them. If I want to leave him empty and cold in a dark corner for a week, he stays there. He doesn't exist until I have a use for him.

3. The Worth

I don't thank my tools for working. A vessel’s worth is defined by its ability to hold what I pour into it without spilling a drop. When a submissive seeks praise, he is no longer serving; he is negotiating for attention.

4. The Void

A poser is full of himself. He’s full of his "fantasies," his "needs," and his "ideas" of what submission should look like. Because he’s already full, I can’t pour anything into him. There’s no room for my will, my rules, or my whims. He’s like a pot already filled with concrete heavy, stubborn, and completely useless to a chef.

A dedicated sub keeps himself empty. He strips away his personality, his desires, and his "voice" so that there is a vacuum waiting to be filled by me. His value isn't in what he is, but in the space he provides for me to occupy.

5. The Property of the Kitchen

You don’t ask a pot for its consent to be moved. You don't wonder if the pot is "feeling up to" being used today.

• The Poser thinks he’s a guest in the kitchen. He wants to be invited to the stove. He wants to be handled with "care" and acknowledged for his presence.

• The Dedicated Sub knows he is just equipment. He is part of the inventory. Whether he is being used at a high flame or sitting forgotten in the back of a damp cabinet, his status doesn't change. He belongs to the kitchen; the kitchen does not belong to him.

6. The Lack of Agency

A pot doesn't "submit" to the heat. It has no choice. It simply is subject to it.

The poser loves to talk about the "choice" he is making to submit. He wants credit for his "sacrifice." He wants me to know how "hard" it is for a powerful man like him to be so low.

The dedicated sub realizes that once he’s in my kitchen, the "choice" is over. He doesn't get points for staying on the burner. He doesn't get a reward for not jumping off the counter. He has no agency. He is an object, and objects don't have "feelings" about how they are used.

Remember, If there is a small hole over time in a good pot we will easily fix it because this pot makes my life easier. Good pot doesnt care if that fix will ruin its appearance - he is there to serve a purpose. But if a pot's only purpose is a fake pose, then a repair ruins its ego - the only thing it actually cares about.

Good pot knows that if there is even a drop of it left, the meal is ruined. I don't want to taste your ego in my food. My pots dont yell at me when to cook because they feel bored. My pots dont advice me how to cook because they know better. My pots let me cook while they are taking all the heat because this is their core function.